Need ur thoughts and prayers

well, to make a long story short, i've found out that my husband has been unfaithful. he doesn't know i know yet. i'm trying to get some legal advice before i say i know the whole thing, but i've known since thursday. its so hard to pretent there's nothing wrong. And this is the first time that i've not turned to food. now, i'm not eating at all. the nut and dr evanson wouldn't be happy. so i'm trying to keep myself in the number one, but its so hard, not to think of it all the time. keep me in your prayers. if you know any spectacular lawyers around terre haute, or even indy, email me. thanx, Amanda

Amanda, I'm so sorry that you are having to go through this. The betrayal of someone you love and trust can be so difficult. I do think it's wise to know what you COULD do beforehand, but remember that when it comes to matters of the heart, could do legally and could do in reality are often two different things. The best thing really would be to discuss this with your husband..with no kids or anyone else in the house. This conversation needs to be heard only by the two of you. If he has in fact cheated on you, then you have to decide if you can forgive him or not. If not, a divorce would be in the best interest for everyone. If you can however, do..and you will be wiser..and he will KNOW you are wiser. I would also consider when his fling occurred. Years ago? Yesterday? No matter what lies ahead of you, always remember that you have to take care of you. Financially, yes. But more so, health-wise. I don't care what Bill does...and trust me, he can be a big jerk..my health comes above that. I will get in my vitamins, protein, and water. His little temper tantrums aren't more important than my physical well-being. Your husband's infidelity isn't worth yours. Should you have to go the divorce route, there is a female lawer in Terre Haute, Terri Lorenz (100 Cherry Street). My sister had her. She totally screwed my brother-in-law, which,he did NOT deserve, but if I needed one who would go for blood, that's who I would go to. Just make sure it's part of the divorce that he has to pay for your lawer because she's expensive. Sherri

we've been married 2 yrs, and i've been finding things since 4 months out from marriage. he says sorry, i forgive. he's into internet porn, which isn't bad; what is bad is when he chats and meets up with other chatters. this last time though, i said that if i find out anything again, i'm gone. i can't forgive anymore. done done done :) thank you for the legal advice and everything else.

Amanda, I can well understand your stance on this. I would be ok with the net porn...and with chatting (ie..flirting)...but to meet in person? Yeah, that is where I'd draw the line too....that is, unless he wouldn't mind me chatting & meeting as well! I would definately give him a taste of his medicine though...but, that's me...lol. Sherri

Sorry to hear about this. Our thoughts and prayers are with you.

Amanda, I am so sorry to hear about this,  I have been there more than once, I have no really good advise, when it comes to matters of the heart, every situation is different.   Get your protein and fluids above all. You cant fight back if you dont have the strength..... Get all the legal advise you can and make sure your next step is what you really want. ask yourself,,, can i forgive him or is it really over,, when did he do it? is it in  the past or present.  what can you live with...... or what do you need to put in your past and move on. You are a smart lady, cover your own butt, dont worry about his, he wasnt thinking of yours when he done this. your life is full of new beginnings and this could be one of them.  Try to spend your days planning your future and not dwelling on it.  I know its so much easier to say than to do.  I will keep you in my prayers, you have support here any time you need it so please come to us and know we care and will help in anyway we can.  Big ole Hug, Carla

Amanda,  Hey, I'm sorry to hear this. That is really rotten of him. You do need to take care of yourself, though!. Try to get in some protein foods today. Not eating will make it harder to think clearly about what you can do and want to do. 

(( hugs )) Amanda. I'm sorry that this has happened to you. Keep your head up. You are a strong beautiful women!

hi there~~~~~`how are u feeling? i been worried about you--i donno what to say to make it better but do what u feel is right--and always remember we are all here for you-were already on a emotional roller coaster and i know this situation defintly cant help matters but keep your head up and youll be ok ----loves missy

Porn is porn no matter if it is on the internet or not..It can mess up ones normal thinking of what is real and what just isnt... Divorce hurts.. if you want it it hurts and it hurts just as bad if you don't want it.. I agree with everyone else. TAKE care of YOU!! The surgery was a good first step to becoming a new and improved you... wont he be dispointed when you reach goal and become the new you. Best of luck to you... hopefull there are no little ones to worry about... Linda Kay